The love of your life got down on one knee...wrote a message in the sky...put a ring in your drink...asked you casually over breakfast to marry him and you said, “YES!”
Congratulations! Now what?
I’d like to share a few things for you to consider as you determine your next steps to marital bliss.
1. Stay True to What You Want
The well-meaning people in your life are beyond excited and each of them has something to say about what you should do. They have thoughts on when and where you should have your wedding. Who should be in your bridal party and who should not. Where you should get your dress(es) and what your color scheme should be. They have it all figured out.
But remember, this is your day. This is your wedding season and what you do and have should be what you desire. Are you listening to me? I want to stand in solidarity with you as you say no to blush pink and yes to Pantone’s Color of the Year – Living Coral! If you don’t want 20 people in your bridal problem, then there won’t be 20 people in your bridal party. If you want food trucks at your reception, then food trucks it is!
Whatever you and your groom desires, comes before what everyone else thinks.
2. Don’t Compare Yourself to Other Brides
This kind of loops into the first point but deserves its own emphasis because you need to remember this. It’s very easy to get caught up in the Pinterest pictures and the exciting calls of others you know who are planning a wedding at the same time you are. Don’t. Get. Caught. Up. In. Doing. What. They. Are. Doing.
You want your guests to confirm that what you’re wearing is your style and compliments you. You want them to see your personality in the décor and activities. When you look at your wedding pictures and video, you want to see the wedding that you always wanted and not a copy of what someone else did for theirs.
3. Think of Ways to Manage the Stress
You can plan pampering sessions at your favorite spa. Spend some time doing yoga. Take afternoon naps. Do whatever relaxes you because wedding planning is stressful, and you need help remaining calm. I’d also like to suggest not going it alone. While you are well able to do it yourself, you don’t want people coming to you on the dance floor at your wedding reception to tell you that the top layer of your cake is sliding off in the scorching heat of your outdoor wedding. Let someone else handle that.
I planned my entire wedding when I got married, but I put together a team of people to handle every aspect of the wedding for the “day of.” So, at minimum, think about hiring a “Day of Coordinator” who will serve as your point person on your wedding day.
If your plate is full and the thought of planning a wedding takes you over the edge, hire a Wedding Planner – it will save your life and decrease the number of gray hairs on your head. A full-service Wedding Planner can handle all the details and find EVERYTHING you need for your wedding so that you feel catered to and cared for.
Being engaged and planning for marriage well be one of the best times of your life and you should enjoy it. I want you to ask yourself along the way if you’re enjoying what you’re doing. If you’re not, give me a call.